Life is good when the entire family is always together. It makes no sense to split the family and live separately. However, in reality it could be due to various reasons, mainly financial where the spouse has to leave and go abroad in search of monetary benefits (say from India to Middle East or any other country). Family stays back, either because it would not make financial sense (as it is mainly to save money) to take them along or because the other spouse stays back to take care of the elders in the family. Alternatively, the children are of such an age where they cannot be managed alone in another country or in school or college where they need to be in India. While these are the main reasons, there could be n no. of peculiar reasons as to why the family has to be split (even within India) and live separately. It causes a lot of hardships for everyone in the family. Primarily the spouses if they are only a few years into the marriage, separation causes a lot of anxiety and worry. Even if they are of the middle age, health concerns could come into play. Food becomes an issue, if the other spouse does not know how to cook or has to learn to cook. These are not insurmountable difficulties, however, require adjustments to the existing lifestyle. Life becomes a compromise. Children missing either of the parents is also an issue when it comes to support, guidance, mentoring and even casual conversations, when there is a need. It becomes stressful for the spouses as there are certain issues in which they can only talk to each other and not to anyone else. While in today’s digitally connected world, you can see and talk to each other, it does not give you the comfort of being next to each other. A warm embrace, a tight hug and a loving kiss would do many wonders in times of anguish. One may also argue that when you are together one spouse may not know the value of the other. They take each other for granted. It’s only when they are separated, do they come to know of the true value of what the other brings to the table. While I do agree with it, it’s mutual and that’s what marriage is all about. It gives you that sense of comfort and coziness that would not exist otherwise. You take confidence in the other person that they are going to hold your hand for the rest of your life. They are going to walk beside you, whether it’s rain or shine…. they are there for you. It’s not what they do for you, that makes you miss them, it’s their presence that gives you that psychological comfort that hey, my spouse is there with me even if something goes wrong to share, to feel, to understand and to give that confidence that all will be well…it’s that aspect which we consider critical for sustenance is what we truly miss in their absence. In brief, it’s as if a part of your soul is missing, that’s why I would or for that matter, both of us would never want to miss each other out any time for anything. This thought dreads us…who is going to die first and leave the other one hanging around….or are we going to die together at the same time….only time will tell.
In life and in the afterlife too…oh! no…. she fears this even more….her only wish…let’s exchange sex…I will be the Man and you will be the Woman….and the roles too…otherwise, I don’t accept this….that’s her only rule….
Beautiful Life 